There is this one thing I hate about influencers…

Now, this is a misleading title, as I am not talking about every influencer on the planet. This is a prime example of what I am going to be discussing here; the abuse of power.

The best place to take this is to Instagram, where you will find most of the people everyone finds interesting. You got your A-list Marvel celebrities, plus your models and Youtubers. The all post their own individual content for you; the consumer, to consume. You have no choice in what the person posts, only if you react to it at all. But what would happen if something harmful was posted?

It is crazy to believe the only thing really stopping abuse happening on the internet is a bot. You would think a person’s thought of “Maybe I shouldn’t do this, nah I will post it anyway”. Once you get to a high level of fame, many people begin to either A: Be weary what they post, or B: post whatever they can because they do not care.

Most influencers will get opportunities to support other brands through sponsorships and brand deals. Take a look at James Charles’ promotion of pills that were not his best friends; he basically lost his job for a bit and millions of people unfollowed him. Due to the social media market being volatile, brand deals will be viewed as selling out or vital to survival, most times it is both.

So, what has been annoying me? The influencers who exploit their fans to make more money off them. Not naming names, but telling fans the only way they can be like them is to pay for a £500 course, that they only put 2 hours of work in. Not only when it surprisingly does not work their new friend bails on them, but they are no further forward but lost thousands.

Now, I know people have to make money, but when you have something really cool to offer, wouldn’t it be better to shar with everyone?

I could go into a lot more detail, but let us just say the influencers who get their fans to invest into NFTs and cryptocurrencies that participants make a small profit, but the influencer earns massively from. This is smart, but cruel to your fans.

Be honest, don’t sellout as you’ll lose what you stood for.

I am sick of overthinking, and so should you!

The way my mind works, it has gone into overtime when it comes to overthinking things. It is not even the necessary areas where overthinking is beneficial, such as my University degree. It comes to things such as idolisation, technology and texting.

It will take up my free time (which there is a lot of) and has just made me unhappy.

SO! (as a pitch to anyone out there) I will document the road to stop overthinking!

I hope you join me!!

Remember to Catch Yourself

This idea incorporates the concept of meditation and self-reflection when it comes to tense moments throughout the day. You may be feeling stressed, or angry towards something, but it is important to train the body and mind to react to your own actions.

About 20 minutes ago at the time of writing, I began a conversation with my mum on the topic of moving out and treating me like an adult. Obviously, she replied in the way a parent would; expressing that they would love them to stay, and that she does not treat me like a child. I then proceed to make feeble, mean, low comments in our argument. Ultimately, I could have said something that really offended her.

Now, I have apologised and had a effective talk about my immaturity after, but I thought it was a good thing to bring up. Remember to catch yourself when you are falling into a flow state of behaviour. I didn’t realise until it was a bit too late in the argument to which some damage could have been done.

But, the positive is the noticing of my actions. I realised how stupid I was, incentivising my mum to give me an argument. It was pointless.

But, at least now I know not to do it.

Remember to catch yourself.

Re Establishing Yourself

It is the start of a new day, and there is only one thing that I want everyone listening to focus on.

“What steps will you take to make sure to get the most out of this day”.

On a personal note, this past month I have been taking the time to really reflect on what I want to do with myself, and almost grow in maturity more to fit a wider audience. I think I have reached a better round and I’m excited to be back.

So whether it is a schedule or blocking distractions, I hope you have a good day!

Why is everyone in a rush?

I feel as though everywhere I go, people are always in a rush to do the next thing. When I am driving on the road for example, drivers are so quick to ignore road safety for the convenience of getting somewhere just that bit quicker. I can understand for some reasons, such as being late for work, but if that is the case it is better that you face the consequences whilst arriving safely.

In life, what I have always wanted to do was to grow up quicker. Now that I am turning 19, I realise that I was wrong. Growing up is not an age, it is a mindset. I am already quite mature for my age, but wishing the time away has only resulted in negatives. We are each in control in how we present ourselves, but that doesn’t mean we have to rush our lives. Taking things slower, being more intentional with our actions, is the solution to solving the equation of life. If you are continuously rushing through your life, then are you living it?

WORK ON YOURSELF BEFORE ALL OTHERS

For the past week or so, I have taken the week off of blogging and all my projects to focus on pointless meaningless things such as playing very dumb games and doing my University work. Well University is not meaningless, but I find as though I am trying to grow up too fast, like my own life is trying to pass me by.

A lot of things have been changing for me. I finally starting working out intentionally and properly, compared to the half-assed method I have been using for the past 2 and a half years. I feel great, and it is made me realise what I have been missing.

Back in September, when I felt at my lowest low, I made a promise to myself that I would improve my life. Moving away from my issues was helpful, but besides that I had not changed. When I was skipping the other night, I realised that this was the first step to climbing the ladder to becoming better.

One of my favourite Haikyu lines comes to mind when I think about this. It goes “He who climbs the ladder, must start at the bottom”. This line is so meaningful, so much so that it is indescribable.

As I grow into adulthood, I realise that no adult has any idea what is going on, they are just going with whatever is happening. I notice this when I aspire to be an adult; what is what I aspire?

It is good to aspire to ideals and goals, but don’t attach yourself to them and think everything else is perfect. Work on all areas of yourself before you work on others.

This was a ramble, but it was important to get it off my chest. Have a great day!

You don’t have to pursue dreams others dreamt for you.

I think with all our limited time here on this earth, it has become abundantly clear that we will not have the capacity to go after all that we want in our life. It is just a matter of fact; that is hard to digest for many.

I think, for many people, we were always swayed to go on a certain career path since we were younger. A lot of us would be handed a job to obtain on a silver plate once we showed one ounce of being good at something. For me, I was very good with construction and building things independently. Therefore, I might have been suited to an engineering job. The future is uncertain, so maybe I will still pursue this job, but it became apparent to me that I have the will to choose my own destiny. That may sound very fluffy and almost cringe-worthy, but it is the truth.

We each have the capacity to move our lives to an ideal that we want to strive for. If I wanted to invest more of my time into cooking, I would change my life to focus more around this. Greek Philosophers figured this out years ago; if you have a problem, do not settle and look for a solution; they always exist.

People who remain in situations that don’t bring them joy is difficult to break. With so much toxicity and terrible people, it can be hard to break out of those situations. But, it is not impossible, because the chance that got you in that situation is still there to get you out. Think of it like a Ctrl Z button.

Things can change, you can change. You don’t have to live your life to something you don’t like. You don’t have to pursue dreams others dreamt for you

Say Thank You.

Embracing our gratitude for other people’s actions has always been a key principle in many peoples’ lives. For me, it comes and goes the level of which I am grateful for others. Sometimes, I will feel an abundance of happiness and gratitude for those around me, sometimes I don’t represent it enough.

But today, I was reminded of what great things others do for me.

When I was learning to drive; last year, I was being taught by this elderly man who had been a professional for decades. He was always extremely kind and would go out of his way to help others; definitely made me feel confident and focused with my driving.

Besides all of the progression in the course, we would have these in depth conversations about all topics. It was one of the reasons I wanted to study psychology; to have the ability to have conversations, which I feel as though the world is losing.

That man’s kindness and care for others, even if he was not being paid for it, has stayed with me and forever will. I messaged him today to see how he was doing, and he still hasn’t changed.

For people like this in your life, say thank you ❤

Who Cares?

This is a notion which I like to keep with me now, in whatever I am pursuing in my life. Recently, this came to light when there was drama in the YouTube community concerning branding in the beauty community. I am all for ousting people who do the wrong thing, especially any mental or physical abuse. When it comes to the cancel culture of the internet, it is so powerful that it sometimes works too quickly, or too hard in some cases; destroying the careers of people who really had not done anything wrong.

I think nowadays, our society is not willing to have a conversation. With highly inexcusable acts, such as racism, homophobia and sexism to name a few, there is no discussion to be had. But when it comes to the smaller, personal topics between individuals, it seems to be a case of “I am right and you are wrong, but I don’t want to hear what you want to say”.

I understand, people feel extremely threatened when they are found to be wrong, or expose themselves to the possibility of being wrong. But, being wrong is flipping cool. Not only do you get to learn something, but you also learn a little more about yourself in the meantime; what is more valuable than that?

But, the things we seem to care about are the most meaningless. When I used to use Facebook I would complain about what everybody else is doing; judging them for their every move. But one day I stopped myself an asked “Why do I care about this?”. I purposely choose to act the way I act, which means I hold all of the power.

So, the next time you ask a question, or are hesitant about making a decision, don’t care about what everyone else will think. I was going to google “Should I buy a Samsung or iPhone” but then I thought “Who cares?” and I should just buy the one that will make you happy.

With the small things that matter to you, and the some of the large things, focus on YOU. Stop paying attention to everyone else.

You Don’t know how strong you are.

One issue that i find many people globally have is the art of self deprecation. It needs no explanation, as I believe most are aware of how harmful it can be. Recently I was thinking to myself that I was not good enough, I was unable to complete my required tasks because “I was not good enough” to produce a high quality results. Once I realized I was doing this to myself, I had to take a step back with how harsh I was being to myself. Why am I allowing myself to discredit myself like this?

Being negative is very easy in this era because we are subjected to negativity in the media everyday. It is a tough world, and many choose to view it as such. But, the simple ideal of think positive has never been so powerful.

Positivity and self love is difficult to obtain for oneself. I have struggled with this throughout my life.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not everyone else

Think about how much you have overcome just to get to here, you are so strong for making it this far.

Your body is your one and only, take care of it.

If you realise how strong you are, then you will know why you must keep going. We only get one life, live it.