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If I am honest, I absolutely suck at talking with new or old people. My brain has a complicated way of thinking when trying to create a good chat with somebody.

I also really suck at staying consistently in chat with somebody. Social media has been made to connect people a lot faster and a lot more efficiently than was before, but I still cannot be able to talk to somebody properly.

This is different when I go to work because I am able to make short conversations with the customers, and not make it awkward by not knowing what to say.

See what I did there, I just said a few of my many flaws, and I feel great . It is good to put them out there so that others know that it is okay to express your flaws.

Everybody has them! Nobody is perfect!

We should all be grateful for all we have. In our lives today we always drive to have more than what we have already, saying that we are short of what we deserve. In actual fact , is humans do not deserve anything, apart from the human rights such as freedom of speech among other things.

Taking a few moments to remind yourself of how privileged you are, will make you more thankful for what you have and will be a happier person.

For example, if you are in envy due to not having the latest game , if you really notice, it is not that important in the grand scheme of things. Be grateful that you have a roof over your head. Be grateful that you have the ability to be entertained by a games console, when others are not so lucky.

If you see how lucky you really are, the feeling of gratitude will increase in your life. Day in and day out, the way you treat others and yourself will be better. You will feel happier.

I have read so many articles and watched so many motivational videos speaking about why you’re always tired. You get up too early, or you don’t go to sleep at the right time for your body to get the best quality of sleep possible. I then conflict this with all those videos on YouTube which say that “waking up at 5 am will change your life!”, yapping off all these different qualities you will possess once beginning this.

I believed it for a long time, the only reason that I thought I was failing in life was because I didn’t get up early enough. I remember a few years back, I would wake up at around 4:30 in the morning just so I could watch The Flash as soon as it came out. Though it isn’t as appealing as it was back then, it was my motivation for getting up early.

Your body needs between 8-9 hours of sleep each night to function properly. Sure, you may have a coffee or tea in the morning to get that extra energy, but then you are borrowing from tomorrow’s energy, meaning you’ll feel twice as tired as tomorrow.

I realise now that the reason I saw myself as a failure is not because I didn’t wake up early enough, it was that I didn’t have that motivation in the morning to get up early. Watching my favourite programmes at dawn made me happy to wake up, getting up to do nothing does not.

Before you embark on the road to waking up early, ask yourself if it’s really what you want and what are the benefits?

Finally, make sure your body gets enough sleep. A healthy body equals a healthy mind.

Happy sleeping!

I am quite the introvert when it comes to talking about my issues. You have probably gathered by now that I enjoy being by myself as it restores my energy and is quite meditative. But ,what you may not know is that I am quite indecisive in my actions, and when this happens I will keep this to myself until I have made a decision.

My support always came from my parents , especially my mum as she would always listen to what I wanted to say. They had agreed and supported the idea of me becoming an electrical engineer. Since the day I heard that I had thought “I really don’t want to do this”. It is quite hard sometimes to get the support and attention from those around you, especially when it came to your future and your parents. For 7 years I had agreed with the idea of being an engineer because I had received the support of my parents, I didn’t want to upset them.

Here is the thing, it is your future and that is composed by your own decisions. Recently I started talking openly about my future with my parents , my stepdad was sceptical but i felt good to speak about what I want to do. I love my parents very much, and I now know I will receive that support I need.

If you’re seeking for support, speaking to those around you can change your life. I know it changed mine.

This is a great question to answer as the answer is hard to fathom. I still don’t know what i want in my life because there is an overload of what to do in life. I am at a stage where i have so many options of what i want to do that it is almost to much.

Director, actor, firefighter, policeman, electrician, teacher, lawyer, government agent are among some of the random jobs that you or me could do. In our current day society, there is so many opportunities and ‘things’ you can do.

So why don’t you realise this?

Mainly, the public like to set their life to one ideological occupation, when there is so many other things you can also do. In my life especially, i want to be able to choose some different jobs in life so i can get the full experience.

We only get one life, we should be able to experience all areas to the full

I always am afraid of this happening. Whenever i see someone getting ahead of me in school, or in skills i feel very envious of their sucess. I know it is all well and good for me to say this, but what am i actually doing to improve myself and assure myself that i am not falling behind. The truth is i do the bare minimum amount of work that i intend to do becasue, i get distracted and procrastinate to a high level. Once the evening has gone by, i will go into a state of confusion and anger, knowing that i let another night get away from me.

I know i have touched upon this in other blogs, but i think it is important to not always focus on the work that needs to be completed. It is almost as important to recollect yourself and focus on other tasks.

If i am honest, i am using this blog post to get out the subconscious fears of what i am doing. “What if i fail my A levels?” and “What if i become worst in the class?”, there is a very helpful technique that from now on i shall use.

If you are procrastinating on something, think of the worst possible outcome from said procrastination. If you don’t do this work now then your grade will go down in the actual exam. This makes your brain more aware of the important tasks in your life, and will urge you to get on with them.

We all try to stay busy in the everyday life. We will all have had instances where a friend, or someone of close relation has asked yo to do something with them or for them. It could be helping with work or going to see a movie, and you have replied with “sorry, I am too busy at the moment”.

I have had this happen to me so many times in the past and to this present day. Us humans all always want something to do in the day, we have become afraid of being bored.

Well, the simple answer to this problem is to look towards Buddhism, where a large amount either meditate religiously or are monks, they are the most contempt people in our current time. Mediation is a form of being bored/doing nothing and embracing it to focus on one’s soul and be in zen. It has been proven to be very effective in modern day society.

 Dan Harris – an ABC presenter had a panic attack on live tv in front of millions, this was a big turning point in his life upon how much we are taking on. I have been reading a book recently called “The Productivity Project” in which the author states how there are 3 main things that really matter to you; and are what you should focus on. Dan Harris also took on this wisdom and simplified his life. He participates in meditation every single day so that he is reminded of his true values and what is most important to him.

So, next time you say you are busy,look back and see what you are focussing on. Ask yourself, “is this really important to me?”. You’ll find that a small majority of the work you do is important and meaningful to your life.

If you haven’t tried meditation before, you should, it is great.

let me start this off by saying i have a lot of respect for women. They have to undergo immense amounts of stress, pain and agony in their everyday lives but are still happy.

Why am i writing about his, well one of my closest friends whom we will call Jess, was talking to me about women’s periods, basically what happens and how it affects them mentally too. I had never thought of women thoroughly for going through this process, i didn’t consider in my mind that they go through this every month, and is a quite gross experience during, before and after. Basically what Jess has taught me is a higher respect for girls and women, though i won’t treat my girl-friends too differently due to circumstances like this, it is important to acknowledge that this is something they go through.

This can also be applied to any situation, before you respond to another in a negative way, take a moment to consider what is happening in their life which could of led them to act this way. Granted it is not okay to let them get away with it, but this stepping back will allow for more structured and calm responses.

We should all strive to be this certain person. A person who looks out for all other people around them, a person who loves and cares for the strangers that they don’t even know yet. A lot of people do act like this, but not everyone does, and not for the right reason.

When i was younger, i really tried to be nice to people out of pure love for others. It was confusing for me to understand why there were certain people in this world who would choose to be closed-off and mean. Now my version of being nice has been twisted also, it took scanning through the 3 seasons of “The Good Place” on Netflix in an evening to gather this. I want to be nice to people, but a vast amount of the time it is because i want something out of it: a relationship, a physical good or even something as simple as a compliment. But hardly ever, i will help someone altruistically.

What i am going to do now on is to try to asses the reasons upon why i want to help or approach a certain situation with a certain attitude. Just doing something as simple as taking a step back to reassess your reasoning can be enlightening. Chidi taught me this, just deciding to make a difference can change everything.

Somethings I just don’t understand, why is it that some people want to choose to be mean to others. If w=you want to say something mean, then you shouldn’t say it at all. People are so crazy and incomprehensible, sometimes I will see people say the meanest things imaginable to others and be okay with it. Something needs to change.

This also includes me.

Especially with my mother, I will always backchat and say such stupid things that are pointless and just mean for the sake of being mean. From this blog I can obtain the flaws that I have. I didn’t have a rich upbringing at all, in fact we were quite poor. Yet, my mother tried to make us feel rich in spirit. Now that I am older, I should be able to stop myself from committing these crimes known as mean comments, and still I am unable to.

But, it is all about committing to the change, in some ways I am like my biological father in terms of anger management and spitefulness. I acknowledge that and consequently should be more aware that I should not fall into the pit known as impulsive thinking.

For others out there, make a change and apologise to those who you have upset. Make a difference to their lives by admitting your mistakes. You’ll make the world a bit better because of it.