Yesterday was my birthday, and I wanted to share some things that I will be taking with me into the future.
1: Stop trying to be friendly to everyone
I think this will be something that lots of people can relate to; we are all too “vanilla” to others. This is usually to avoid confrontation, so instead of discussing a possible disagreement, we keep our opinions to ourselves. There is a problem which is created here, everyone begins to believe their opinion is right and everyone else is wrong. If no one will disagree, and everyone surrounding you are “yes-menning”, then your ego will increase, which can be dangerous especially when you have no idea what you are talking about.
Also, something I have learned, actually through my boss, is trying to be nice to everyone, besides the people that truly matter, is pointless. There is the golden rule taught throughout all studies of Christianity “treat others how you wish to be treated”. By that logic, I began to ask myself, do I really want everyone to treat me as their friend? No, that would be overwhelmingly stressful!
Working in a customer serving environment, it is important to be nice to customers (obviously) but you do not have to go the extra mile every time. Only a small amount of people will reciprocate with gratitude; they are the people who matter.
So to sum this up, stop being so nice to everyone, they are not all worth your time. Understand who is truly important in your life, they are who you should focus on.
Remember, nobody likes a yes-man, be honest with people, it is one of the ways to filter down towards those who are important.
2) Instant gratification and too much relaxation is affecting your brain, stop it.
After coming back from work, the habitual process of sitting down and doing nothing is a redundancy, a waste of time. Spending your time more wisely will increase your capacity to do more things at a higher standard than others. Over this beginning of self development, YouTube has become something associated with procrastination, it is true, all of social media is!
Put your mind to projects, that lead to results, that is the only way to grow.
3) Stop giving a shit about things (overthinking)
The day is done, the year is done, you don’t need to be worrying about something you have already done, you cannot change it, it is a part of your origin, your life. Don’t overthink unnecessarily, just do.
4) You don’t need to portray a story to everyone
Keep some things to yourself, simplify your life as it won’t do you any good having lots of people knowing your life story, especially if you’re not making money.
5) Believe in yourself
Recognize your worth, you are amazing!
Anyway happy birthday me for yesterday, have a great day y’all