I like to think of myself as an honest individual. I like to talk to my friends and family truthfully about what my issues are, what I am struggling with them about, and how we can fix this. But, I never used to be like this. I always lied. This was to make myself look better to other people, so that they would find me interesting. Now, after finishing secondary education, this bad habit of mine has serious repercussions, that I have spent time on repairing.
Here is a personal example. When I was younger, my favourite YouTuber at the time was pewdiepie. Whenever we went to Brighton to visit my Aunt, I would subtly keep a look out for him, so I could meet him. After these trips, I would come home and tell my friends “ I met pewdiepie”. My friends were obviously in awe of this, they asked to see a photo. I thought “crap, now I have to make an excuse or produce a fake photo to show that I met him”. Eventually, I just said the photo was not on my phone, and I waited for them to forget about it.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. I got into the habit of lying after this to get the appreciation I thought I wanted. I lied to make a good impression on my first girlfriend, but then the relationship ended because she was not dating the real me.
When you believe your lie, you can make up anything.
More recently, I lied about something that definitely did not happen on New Years Eve to a couple of my friends. There was a really cool dude who knew all kinds of cool people, and I just wanted to impress him so I could be apart of his group. But then, word spread about my lie, and other friends started asking me if this was true. So, then I had to lie about the lie to cover up that I lied. Sound confusing? Yes it is.
But, it came to a point very recently that I discovered something incredible, I didn’t know myself. I did not know what I liked, or what I wanted to do with my life. My lies had hidden my true identity. For example, I lied that I love watching loads of anime, so I could hang out with certain friends, when truthfully I only like a certain few (My Hero Academia, of course). Something I like to call The Lying Spiral can destroy your identity.
My point is, don’t do what I did. Lying will just make more problems for you down the line. Friends may bring up something you told, and you had made it up and now have to expand it. Nobody deserves to be lied to, unless you are the American people – looking at you Trump!
Don’t get caught by the lying spiral, instead reflect on yourself, take time to get to know you.
(Also watch My Hero Academia, it is very good :))
From My View 