Goals

We all have goals, don’t we? Hit that certain weight at the gym, or get up everyday for 5:30 to do countless hours of work. Well what happens if you break these? Once you have ingrained them into your head and you slip up, the brain can enter a state of depression and anxiety. “If i can’t get up at 5:30 every morning then i am a failure”. I used to think this way about what i wanted in life. I remember i was out kayaking with my sister once, and our brother was ahead of us in sailing back. As i am older than my brother and always strive to be better, this was agitating. I entered this state of anger and resentment to myself and those around me, especially my sister (sorry Catherine!). What i should of done at the time is recollect my thoughts and say to myself ” It is okay to fail, i should be more thankful that we have this opportunity to try new things and for my brother to find something he is good at”. If i did this, then i would of realized that my dad was also in the kayak with my brother and was the one pushing ahead, but that is besides the point. It is absolutely okay to fail, just as long as you keep going afterwards. This fits me perfectly, i aim to write on this blog everyday for the next 30 days, i have already missed a few days! But what that has done for me is that it has shown me what i should truly focus on, this blog, my work and my family. The true goal in life should be trying to achieve balance and security in all aspects, once we get over ourselves and the small things that don’t really matter in life, then maybe all of us can see your version of my dad rowing my brother.