Anger

Anger is a funny thing isn’t it? It feels great during the moment as you feel it is justified, but truly it isn’t. Today for example, i felt myself get angry for being caught not focusing on my work, and this humiliation of myself angered me. It not that she was wrong in instructing me to do my work, if anything i have now realized that her justification in telling me off was utterly understandable. But, thankfully i am not the only one who gets angry, we all do. But it is about how you can control this anger. Let me give you this bit of advice, DON’T TALK ABOUT WHY YOU ARE ANGRY TOO MUCH OR IT WILL MAKE YOU MORE ANGRY. The best advice out there is to take a moment of two to recollect and reflect on yourself on why you feel this way. In Professor Steven Peters book “The Chimp Paradox”, he talks about the concept of the primary chimp in everyone, taking control of the mind when we feel angry as it is a direct way for the chimp to overpower the human. So next time you feel extreme anger and want to scream out loud, punch the wall etc, ask yourself ‘Do i really want to feel this way?’. If the answer is no, then the chimp has hijacked you but once noticing this, you the human are back in control. It becomes easier to calm down, take time out and breathe. Once you have calmed down and let go, there is no need to talk about what made you angry as the whole process will begin again. Nobody, including you, really wants that to happen.