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Dating

I wanted to stress some thing , which is very easy to overlook.

Dating is great. You get to meet cool people, get to know them even better, and have a wonderful time with them. Not to mention, the other things.

But there seems to be this trend, especially with people my age, where you always have to be dating. This isn’t true, for some reason it’s becoming the norm.

I’m no dating expert myself, but from what I do know is there is no rush to find the perfect person. With apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge, they want you to find a date. Sometimes, you are not ready to be dating someone, maybe you need to give yourself time to grow.

I started noticing this about a year ago l, when I’d be taking to a girl, and then would evaluate what I was saying; I wasn’t a man, I was a boy, with a feeble understanding of the real world. With that mindset, no girl is going to change your mind.

There’s always this rush to be in things. The rush to be in a relationship, the rush to hold someone before anybody else. If there is someone out there for you, let them know, but remember to check if you’re okay too. Life is too short to not go for chances, but it’s also too short if you mess them all up.

Go with your gut. But when you’re dating, check that you’re in the right place to date.

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Instead of being who you were how about becoming who you want to be?

This is something I thought about on my run this morning. We get so comfortable with how we live, day by day, that when change comes about, it is scary and unwanted.

Take starting a new habit, or quitting something you used to do ( such as smoking). Instead of sticking with this new change, humans find it very easy to slip back into our old ways. We crave the easy-life , and linearity in our daily routine.

It is so hard to change, is usually the mentality that people have when they are trying to change something about themselves. But, maybe it isn’t so difficult. If you say something will be difficult, it is likely it will appear to be more difficult. Optimism and mindset can change the play of the game.

We revert back to our old ways because that is who we used to be, and we recognise how easy it is to be that person. With the action of smoking, you may be quitting due to health risks. It is easy enough to forget, or stop trying to smoke because it is just too hard. This isn’t the case. Every single day, people change, little by little. Nobody is the same person as they were 24 hours before. Taking the leap to commit a change, is one of the strongest attributes a human can have. The best part about it? It is free and anybody can do it.

It must come from within. When you want to do something differently (especially with resolutions) it is key to remember why you are doing it, and how it will change your life, for the bettter.

So instead of living who you were before, how about living the life you want to be. If you identify as a non-smoker, then stop smoking. If you are an athlete, better start working out. Keep these ideals in realistic terms, nobody out there wants to be a unicorn.

Start living your ideal life, it all starts with a change of mindset.

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Keep Going Pt 2

The world is constantly changing around us. Throughout this past year, multiple things have changed , such as the way we contact people, to the way we complete our work. If you had told yourself a year ago that any of this was going to happen, it would be difficult to convince them.

However, this is the world we live in. Not everybody has been so lucky this year, and it is important to realise that. Which is why this phrase comes in handy. “Keep going” isn’t just a phrase to me, it’s a mantra. We can complain about the world, Brexit and Covid all we want, but at the end of the day, we just have to deal with it. There is only so much we can change in our world, the rest we have to deal with and keep going.

This may not be surprising to many, but it is important to remember. I still think people care too much about what is unimportant in life. Things such as new variants or drops in stock markets are tough to deal with, but there isn’t much you can do about it. I understand that people can get upset and angry, but it isn’t going to change something, it’s just wasting time where you could be figuring out what you should do next.

Overall, it sounds quite cynical, but try not to care too much on what is out of your control. Complain all you want about what you can control, but realise this is something you have to deal with and solve. But always remember, though it may be tough, to keep going.

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Goals and Dreams

Our goals are important. They are what urges us to get up in the morning; brush our teeth, work out, walk the dog and get to work. Our Dreams play in par with this. We stick to our goals so we can follow our dreams.

I have struggled with my goals and dreams for a long time. I try to set myself a goal, to accomplish a task, but i have never had a clear dream. When i was younger, i thought i was meant to be an electrician, because it was solid money and would make my parents proud. I have wanted to be a psychologist, because I love understanding and helping people, though the idea came from idolising someone else, and what they had accomplished.

Is this a bad thing? No, everyone has people they look up to. Look at the big companies: Apple, Tesla and Microsoft. I would be lying that I have never dreamt I was successful as Tim Cook. But there is a distinct difference between idolising and being inspired by successful figures. Though i will not be implementing Tim’s impressive work ethic, I would implement his dedication and passion for his job. When you love what you are doing, you will be more inspired to continue working. This is not something that hasn’t been said before. Falling in love with your work will help you achieve your goals, consequently achieving your dreams.

But, it is not so cut simple. If your working in a dynamic industry, such as social media, doing the work does not guarantee your success as an “influencer”. You have to adapt, overcome your obstacles and be unique. There is no set process to success. You have to make a commitment and stick to it.

With goals and dreams, it is difficult to complete the goals without the dream. I have struggled with this for a long time now, but I think I have found one.

I want the world to be a better place because I was apart of it Life is a bitter sweet amount of time, our lives are our memories. So if we don’t have memories, then who are we really. Though I am unsure of the right direction for my life to go in, it is fair to say that if I can improve the world, just a little bit, because I was here, my job is done.

My best advice for those without direction or a dream, no matter what age, you will find something that you will fall in love with. There is no direction in life you need to go, there are windy roads that take you down all sorts of paths. But, by making smart decisions, even over little things such as the food you eat, you will find the right roads leading to the right destination.

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What I want

For a long time, I have struggled with what I wanted to have in life. For a lot of my younger years, I felt as though I needed to be a protector for others who cannot protect themselves. This was a result of my self-imposed failure I put on myself when I was younger; where I could not protect the I loved the most.

So, for most my life, that has been my goal; to protect others in the face of danger. This still is a huge part of my life. I don’t feel obliged to, I feel as though I must. But, this has not made me fulfilled. I want to do more, I need to be more. This is a selfish ambition, but I feel as though I have a destiny to do something great. This keeps me up at night; what is it? I keep pondering, searching for what this is. Maybe I won’t know what this ‘destiny’ is for a while, but I will keep looking for it.

Why am I writing about this? Well it was one of the first ideas that came into my head, and I wanted to write about it. I think it is the most important part; whether you want to do write about it. I have never pursued what I wanted to do, I was afraid of failure. Although I am going to university, this does not mean I won’t be able to purse my wants.

Whether this is career-wise, love or life ambitions, I will choose what I want.

We always forget we have this only life to pursue all of our goals. If others bellittle your abilities to grow, then they are afraid of your accomplishment.

If I could summarise this post in four words it would be this; go with your gut.